For folks new to a PA-A 12 step format, it can be confusing and sometimes overwhelming. There is a lot of pain, longing, anger, and loss with folks struggling with PA. Sometimes a meeting can seem overwhelming when new as we mostly relate to the pain and trauma.
It takes time to hear the message of recovery and to allow yourself some space and time to heal. When arriving at a meeting for first time and it might be jarring hearing folks laugh and make small talk. It may seem that they know everybody and have meaningful relationships, which could add to the feeling of separation and isolation.
I promise you every one of us initially felt out of place, self-conscious and lonely. After 2-3 meetings you are able to start tracking people’s stories and start to build some trust and rapport. It isn’t realistic that you will like everyone. Take what you like and leave the rest (certain stuff will resonate that folks share other stuff will not).
After 6 meetings you will have certain times and meetings that fit your needs. Hopefully you will also find some folks that you resonate with and start to build new friendships and support.
In meetings the slogan we often use is principles before personalities. The principle of us all seeking support, recovery, and a new empowered life.
DO NOT LEAVE BEFORE THE MIRACLE
PA-A at a glance PDF
PA-A Facts PDF
PA-A Newcomer Booklet, to share with new comers at every meeting PDF
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Hi
I came across your site this morning after watching a YouTube video on parental alienation.
I have been alienated from my daughters for over 14 years now and struggle a lot with this. I saw that you conduct meetings for alienated parents.
Are these meetings held virtually e.g. Zoom or are these meetings to be attended on a personal level?
Please advise
Regards
Gavin
Donegal
Ireland
Welcome to Parental Alienation Anonymous (PA-A.org). We are glad you have found us. Feel free to reach out via email (parentalalienationanonymous@gmail.com) to receive our weekly meeting schedule as well as other information you might find useful.
All meetings are currently on zoom but people in common regions re meeting on a regular basis. I suggest attending meetings to meet some of the community and finding folks in your area.
This is a slow process but many of us have found healing on this journey through PA-A.