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Each PA-A group is autonomous and has agency over their own format and meeting structure. The only caveat is each group must use Al-Anon approved literature and the 12 steps and 12 traditions as written.

Any problems or conflicts that arise on the group level are dealt with at that particular group. You can get a more in-depth and useful understanding by reading the group guidelines and understanding how you can have a say at your meeting through a group conscience. As a member of any meeting you have the agency to call for a group conscience and bring suggested changes to the specific meeting.

“We give each group full autonomy, the undisturbed right to manage its own affairs. To make this condition doubly permanent and secure, we have guaranteed to all 12-step groups that they will never be subjected to any centralized government or authority. In turn each group agrees that it will never take any action that could injure us all. Rarely indeed has any 12-step group ever forgotten that precious trust.”

Bill Wilson (one of the founders of AA, the 1st 12 step program)

Tradition 4

Tradition 4 of the 12 traditions of Parental Alienation Anonymous (adapted from AA) states that the freedom individual groups have carried with it the admonition to protect the fellowship as a whole. This means that meeting formats can vary from group to group, but it also cautions against straying too far from the usual program. It is suggested that all meetings start and end on time and that meetings have a timer to avoid domination by individuals, give the maximum amount of people a chance to share and to give people structure, safety and consistency from meeting to meeting.

“Tradition 4: Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or PA-A as a whole.”

Tradition 4 Grants PA-A Groups Freedom With Responsibility to the Whole

Each 12-step group has complete freedom to decide for itself the program content of its meetings and the topics that will be discussed. The group can decide if the meeting will be open or closed and when and where the meeting will be held. Currently every meeting is closed for safety & security. At a time there might be a need or desire for an open meeting. Each group can decide to change its meeting format by majority at a group conscience.

The group can also decide how it wishes to begin and end its meetings. Some groups close with a prayer, while others have a moment of silence. In all of these matters, each group has total freedom. It is entirely up to the membership of that individual group.

But the second part of this tradition reminds each group that it has a responsibility also to the worldwide fellowship and other groups. By adhering to the traditions and principals of its program, each group can assure that it will not stray too far away from the program’s basic tenets.

Limits to Freedom Granted By the Fourth Tradition

The autonomy provided in Tradition 4 does not mean an individual group has the authority to re-word the 12 steps or traditions or to create its own literature. Nor should groups introduce, discuss, or sell outside literature at their meeting places.

Other than that, groups have complete freedom to design their programs to the needs of their members, which can result in a wide variety of formats.

Many a meeting has gotten away from the look and feel of its primary purpose by using non-conference-approved literature, showing videos of popular self-help speakers, or allowing treatment professionals to speak at open meetings on the latest therapy techniques.

There is a saying that there is no right or wrong way to hold a meeting, but the group can cease carrying the message if it strays too far from its traditions and concepts.

How Group Autonomy Creates Different Environments

One PA-A member described what it was like when encountering groups that did things differently. He says that when he first came into PA-A, he learned how it went in his little group, and as he went to other groups in neighboring towns, he would think, “They don’t do their meetings right,” simply because they weren’t the same as the first group he went to.

Today these little things that used to bother him make him realize that they’re what makes all these groups unique and different. He looks forward to the different meetings now because they’re unique in their own rights. As long as the guidelines of the program are followed and the basic message is there for everyone, the autonomy of each group is one more example of why 12 STEP PROGRAMS WORK works.


  1. Lisa Vollrath

    Where do I find a meeting place

    • morning,

      you have been added to the weekly email list, please check your email/or spam folder… goes out in 15 minutes.
      hope to see you in a the rooms.

  2. Susan

    Hi. I’d like to know about meetings and if in my area or can I connect through Zoom. I have not had contact with my son for over 20 years, he lives in another country. I never gets easy. He’s 33 years old now.

    • Once you fill in the contact page on this website you will receive an automated email with all the meeting information. If it isn’t in your main mailbox please check spam, social and promotions. If you still can’t find it please email
      Hope to see you in the zoom meetings.

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