For folks new to a PA 12 step format it can be confusing and sometimes overwhelming. There is a lot of pain, longing, anger and loss with folks struggling with PA. Sometimes a meeting can seem overwhelming when new as we mostly relate to the pain and trauma.
It takes time to hear the message of recovery and to allow yourself some space and time to heal. When arriving at a meeting for first time and it might be jarring hearing folks laugh and make small talk. It may seem that they know everybody and have meaningful relationships, which could add to the feeling of separation nd isolation.
I promise you every one of us initially felt out of place, self-conscious and lonely. After 2-3 meetings you are able to start tracking peoples stories and start to build some trust and rapport. It isn’t realistic that you will like everyone. Take what you like and leave the rest (certain stuff will resonate that folks share other stuff will not).
After 6 meetings you will have certain times and meetings that fit your needs. Hopefully you will also find some folks that you resonate with and start to build new friendships and support.
In meetings the slogan we often use is principles before personalities. The principle of us all seeking support, recovery and a new empowered life.
DO NOT LEAVE BEFORE THE MIRACLE
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