parental alienation support group

To qualify; I am an alienated father of three daughters 27, 24 and 20 years old, I am also an alienated grandfather. (WE QUALIFY AT EACH PA-A.ORG SUPPORT GROUP MEETING BEFORE WE SHARE OUR THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY)

This year the addition of my Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings and community has been life changing. I have a community I see SEVERAL TIMES A WEEK ON ZOOM CALLS, and I also have folks that I text and exchange calls with daily.

I have support that MY family and friends could not provide. I do not need to explain my feelings and or behaviors that are associated with Parental Alienation (PA), what a relief. The meetings are structured with a leader and secretary. There is a script that they follow in order to keep the meeting safe and orderly. It is a place of recovery, a place we get to tell our stories and also work on our emotionally and spiritual recovery. Every one has 3 minutes to share and 1 minute to wrap up.

THE MEETINGS are a place of hope and change. In the context of systems theory in general and family systems in particular, the number one leverage point is the individual. That means you and I are the most important leverage point (intervention point) in our family systems. We have to be the healthiest version of ourselves when we engage with the system. I used to try get everyone to listen to me, to understand all the trauma and drama and help me get my kids back. I was operating from a reactive fragmented place. I exasperated the situation often and lost opportunities to create sustainable change. I was responsible for so much of the carnage. Today with the help of the 12 steps of I show up from a grounded, integrated space most of the time. Attorneys, therapists, judges and other folks no longer view me as a emotionally reactive threat. I am now able to contribute to the solution. I wish I would have had a community like this in my early days of PA it would have made a world of difference.


  1. James Miller

    I am looking at the website to try to find the phone list and the sign up for service positions. Can someone direct me to them? Thanks.

    • HI Jim,

      You are already on the phone list and an email was sent out awhile ago with access I will resend it today. Makes sure to double check your spam. You can respond to the email with service positions you are interested in and we can set up a zoom call after that to discuss options.

      thank u for reaching out

      • Justin Asbury

        I would like to attend one of these meetings

        • HI Justin, You are on the email list, when you receive the email weekly please look at the meeting times and convert them to your time zone. Then click on the link at the appropriate time.

          hope to see you around.

      • Debra Buckles

        I would like I formation for zoom meetings. Have been alienated over 10 years due to their drug use and father. Problems coping.

        • Ggg

          Lol you people can’t actually talk to any human that is normal. Blame it on the spouse, blame it on the kids. How about being straight up with your kids. Say you screwed up. But no you guys are special. Keep it up, kids are always wrong.

          • Sounds like you are really hurt and angry. Guessing you are struggling with a relationship in your life. I’m sorry you are going through this. I agree sometimes people can’t take responsibility for their actions and this creates more harm.

            There are new meetings starting for folks that choose to not be in contact with their parents, grandparents and other family members this might be useful to check out if your interested in other resources.

            thanks for your comment and have a great day.

      • Angel M Kooken

        I’d like to have weekly emails and meeting times

        • You should have just received an automated email with all the meeting information. hope to see you in the meetings

          • Alisha m henning

            Please add me to the email list

          • I suggest attending meetings. You will get to meet other people struggling with similar circumstances and to to gain access to a bunch of different resources. All meetings are on zoom and accessible from anywhere.

            You can register on the website to the pop-up and get added to the weekly email lists or you can send an email to with any other questions.

            I hope to see you at a meeting. Have a beautiful day.

  2. Kris Brown

    I am systematically being erased and it’s killing me.

    • HI Kris,

      It’s a horrendous situation for us all. It sounds like you are really struggling with the loss. Guessing some support would be useful? Our groups are great, they help build community and a solid base for regaining a semblance of control of your life. Sign up on the contact form on the web site, if this might be useful.


      • Darcy

        Please send me the link for zoom meetings. Been alienated from my two teenage children for 4 years now from my narcissistic ex husband and his new wife.

    • Josh

      Hi, I’d like to join the PST meeting for today, but I’m not finding where to get the sign in info. If someone could point me in . right direction or email it to me before the start, it would be much appreciated. Thanks!

  3. Kathleen

    I am dealing with adult children who I have been alienated from due to the lies and manipulations of their father. It seems like the people around me don’t want to touch the issue which compounds the hurt and loneliness.

    • HI Kathleen,

      Sounds really hard and frustrating. WE have a great community of parents, grandparents & other relatives at our meetings. You would benefit in getting some consistent support I would guess. Fill out the contact form to get added.


  4. Dallas wilson

    When will law come in to punish people for this disgusting action of abuse

    • HI Dallas,

      Their are folks out there doing some great work on this front. Hopefully we see something soon:))

  5. Arnie Smith

    I would like to attend one of these meetings please.

    • HI Arnie,

      I have added you to the weekly email with meeting times and links. I also emailed you links for this week, please check your inbox.

      hope to see you at a meeting

  6. James

    Can you send me a link to the zoom meeting?

      • The community is awesome & supportive. I added you to the weekly email list with meeting times and links plus some other info.

        hope to see you at a meeting

  7. Inna

    I am trying to figure out if these meetings are in person or remote. I would like to attend to learn and share my experience.

    Thank you

    • HI Inna,

      we would love to have you join our community. It really is a beautiful place of support, shared reality and a place to grow emotionally and spiritually. I will add you to the email list, all meetings are currently on zoom. 7 meetings a week, 6 days a week. Try some different ones as participants and topics vary.

      You will have an email in your in box in 30 minutes , please check your spam if you don’t see it.

      happy days:))

  8. HI Kelsey,

    It would be great to have you volunteer once you try some meetings and make sure the community resonates with you. I will send you an email directly. You can sign up through the pop up or the contact page.

    happy day

  9. Corey Mathews

    Hi – I am interested in starting meetings
    – please send me the links
    Thank you -Corey

    • Hi Corey,

      You have been added to 1x weekly email list with all the information you will need.

      hope to see you around:)

  10. I have been dealing with this for almost three years now and only recently came to understand this is a phenomenon beyond my personal one. I would love to get involved and share what I can to help others as well as myself to find some peace and healing amid this incredibly painful and tortuous challenge. I am currently on day 773 of consecutive days with at least one meditation session. I am trying to use this as a spur for positive growth. Please let me know when meetings are.

    • Sounds like you are getting a lot of relief out of meditation. YAY U

      An email went out to you on Wednesday with meeting information and links. Please check your spam if you don’t see it.

  11. Ella

    I would like to be sent the weekly links for the meetings, if you can please.needing support. And also to be signed up for the newsletter.. cannot find the sign-up link? Can you please assist. Thank you very much.


  12. James T

    I’m feeling a lot of fear around joining this group. I’m afraid I will only harm myself by engaging my thoughts and emotions around the loss of my children, but maybe I’m wrong and this is exactly what I need. My situation is 100% my responsibility to manage, but less than 10% my fault. I am a victim and my children are victims and pretending that’s not true is just that, pretending. Please tell me if this is a group founded on self-blame because I will only “Monday morning quarter-back” myself so far. Thank you.

    • The group is a great place to work on yourself and start your healing process. It is not easy and it is incredible rewarding. When Im alone with my thoughts only I tend to exasperate all challanging areas in my life. I added you to the group email, please check your email or spam.

      hope to see you at a meeting

  13. Mark Jacobsen

    Hi, How do I join a group? I can’t seem to find the zoom link, Thanks in advance for some help, Mark

    • please check your spam, weekly emails have been going out to you with all the meeting info. I also sent you an email today with a copy of the last email.

  14. Terri

    I would love to attend meetings in my area or on zoom. Please email me information. Thank you.