Parental alienation anonymous (PAA) and Non-violent communication (NVC) support group overview.
WHAT IS NVC?
NVC (nonviolent communication) is an empathy-based form of communication. If practiced it transforms every relationship in our lives, starting with our relationship to ourselves. We are not conditioned to be good listeners. Generally, we are more interested in what we have to say, fixing or saving someone else and in protecting our ideas and constructs. This inhibits us from really hearing ourselves and others. NVC gives us a framework to transform how we communicate and engage with every person in our lives.
There are 4 basic stages to working with and understanding NVC. Observations, feelings, needs & requests.
Instead of listening to someone’s story or narrative we practice listening to what they are actually trying to communicate by trying to understand their feelings and needs.
We use discernment to try and uncover our or someone else’s feelings.
Under every feeling is a need we are trying to meet. For example, I can be feeling anxious because I have a need for safety.
Once I identify me needs or others needs it is important to discern if any action is needed. In the example above I figured out I was anxious because I had a need for safety. My request might be “can we please leave this restaurant”.
WHY IS THIS SO IMPORTANT FOR FOLKS STRUGGLING WITH PARENTAL ALIENATION?
Stuffed and stored emotions block the life force in our bodies. This is especially true with folks struggling with any form of parental alienation and/or as estrangement. These blockages interfere with our ability to fully engage life’s joys and obstacles. In order to be fully present and available in every conversation and form of communication we have to start resolving some of these internal and external coping mechanisms. Our kids, grandkids and all others in our lives will be the beneficiaries of us cultivating these new skills.
This level 1 group will focus on needs, feelings and ultimately requests. As we share our feelings, recognize our needs and then ask for our needs to be met(request), the emotional blockages are released and we can engage life in a new and meaningful way. As we learn to understand our own needs and feelings we can finally start understanding what others are needing and felling as well.
“When our emotions are free to flow everything becomes possible”
Please google NVC (non violent communication) if you are not familiar with it. It is an empathy based form of communication which when used will transform relationships.