“Welcome to the Traditions meeting of Parental Alienation Anonymous (PA-A) Meeting. Please make sure you are muted if you are not sharing to cut down on background noise.”
My name is _____ and I am the leader for this meeting. (please qualify) My name is……. And I am an alienated……….. I have……kids and please identify what contact you have.

We start the meeting with the serenity prayer, you can replace god with higher power or anything else that resonates with you. Please unmute if you would like and chant along.
“12 Traditions Bind Us Together – A Survival Suggestion”

PA-A Preamble
ALIENATION is a family disease. Living with the effects of someone else’s ALIENATING BEHAVIOR is too devastating for most people to bear without help. In PA-A we learn that nothing we say or do can cause or stop someone else’s ALIENATING behavior. We are not responsible for another person’s disease or recovery from it.

At this meeting, we use a timer. You will have 3 minutes to share, plus an additional 1 minute to wrap up. (If there are more than 14 people at the meeting, the time will be reduced to 2 minutes to share plus 1 minute to wrap up.) Who would like to volunteer to be timer? (Ask for a volunteer to time). The timer will let you know when you have 1 minute remaining, they will raise one finger. Please acknowledge that you see them. If you do not acknowledge the timer they will announce verbally when you have 30 seconds remaining. The timer will announce “TIME” once your allotted time is complete. We do this in order to make sure as many people as possible get to share. Please have folks qualify if comfortable with at least their first name

Please post the questions from the Tradition (below) as prompts for sharing if needed.

We will now have time for sharing. Please raise your hand if you would like to share, if more than 20 people are present please raise your virtual hand or type your name into the chat. We ask that you relate your sharing from your own experience, strength, and hope, keeping the focus on yourself and Tradition 1. Please make sure to include your recovery and what you are doing to take care of yourself today in your share.

An important reminder to anyone that chooses to share, PAA is a recovery-based group. Please focus part of your share on your recovery. The secretary or leader will interrupt you and redirect your share if needed. This is done in order to keep this space safe for all members.

Please refrain from crosstalk. This is defined as commenting on someone else’s share. We intentionally refrain from sharing or giving advice on another’s share. If you are moved by someone else’s share, feel free to contact them in the chat. Not everyone will want to chat or connect one on one. If you have any questions about the meeting or PA-A, the zoom link is open 10 minutes before the meeting and 10 minutes after the meeting. Please come early or stay late for some fellowship.

Participation – directions in this meeting: 3 ways… to participate….reading Paths “Page xxx onwards

THE TWELVE TRADITIONS OF PARENTAL ALIENATION ANONYMOUS (PA-A)

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon PA-A unity…………
  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern…………
  3. The only requirement for PA-A membership is that you have been or are alienated from a relationship.
  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or PA-A as a whole……….
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the alienated parent, child, grandparent or other family members and friends who still suffer……….
  6. A PA-A group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the PA-A name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose…………
  7. Every PA-A group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions………
  8. Parental Alienation Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers…………
  9. PA-A, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. Parental Alienation Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the PA-A name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities

From Paths to Recovery on the Tradition Pages 131 & 132

We will now return to open sharing, who would like to share?

If everyone has shared before the meeting is complete, please allow an additional 2 minutes per person if they have an additional share.

At 7.10 pm (70 mins after start) Leader says, “That is all the time we have for sharing”.

Please Read Suggested PA-A closing (attached)

Suggested PA-A Closing

  • Members are encouraged to connect with each other for support in between meetings. If you want a copy of our phone list or to be included please ask the secretary in the chat, respond to the meeting email or sign on to PA-A.org and fill in the suggestion form with your information. As a reminder the zoom link will stay open an extra ten minutes at the end of the meeting for questions and fellowship.
  • A suggestion to the new comer, please try 5 or 6 meetings before you make a decision if this program is a fit for you. It takes time to acclimate to the group, the context of the shares, the emotions that might come up and to build consistency, safety and a sense of belonging.

In closing, I would like to say that the opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you liked and leave the rest.

The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room and the confines of your mind.

A few special words to those of you who haven’t been with us long:  Whatever your problems, there are those among us who have had them, too. If you try to keep an open mind, you will find help. You will come to realize that there is no situation too difficult to be bettered and no unhappiness too great to be lessened.

Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at
a time.

We will now have a moment of silence for anyone out there struggling with the effects of parental alienation in their lives. (after 5-10 seconds knock on the table to close this moment of silence)

To End The meeting………….(please read this slowly so people can chant along)

Please join me in the Serenity Prayer.

God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change….

The courage to change the things I can…..

And the wisdom to know the difference…..

*******the meeting is over, please unmute and join in some fellowship and or questions********