“Relationships are a big area of growth for me in recovery. How I relate to myself is a huge part of what I am working on improving. The 12 steps (pa-a.org adapts Al Anon’s ‘Paths to Recovery’ for those suffering from alienation) provide a framework for healthy personal growth, and the pa-a community is a constant source of strength and encouragement.”

“Today, I have a plan that includes reading PAA literature, speaking with my sponsor, attending an online meeting, praying, meditating, and writing this blog. This plan will help me to work through my emotions and come out to the other side, knowing better how to act in this seemingly insurmountable predicament. I can only say that I am grateful to the PAA program and its members for helping me understand that I do not have to react and that I can step back, consider my options, and then decide what I need to do. And I know I need only do this one day at a time in recovery!”

“It has changed my perspective – I am no longer in victim mode. I am much calmer than I have ever been in my entire life – I experience feelings of serenity and peace now. I have ‘found my voice’ in recovery – working through the 12 steps with my sponsor allows me to form my own identity, one that is separate from my ex, my kids, my friends and my family of origin.”

“As I have slowly and steadily worked my way through step work with my sponsor, I am finding emotions bubbling up all over the place. Given the horrific nature of alienation, it is no surprise that anger is one of the predominant feelings I am dealing with right now. Even though the anger makes total sense, given the abuse that my kids and I have undergone (and continue to suffer from), I still find myself shocked at just how angry I am.”

“Today, my message is if you’re struggling and feel lost, hurt and confused, come join our community. It has saved my life by giving me the framework through the 12 steps of PA-A.org to work on myself emotionally, spiritually and physically so I can be the best person and parent possible.”

“Recovery has allowed me to pause, consider my intention, and then focus my attention there. I can wait until I am prepared and resourced before responding to the day’s challenge. I now know taking it easy is a useful asset. Time, patience and the ability to pause before I act save myself and my kids a lot of pain. Where did you or are you going to apply “Easy Does It” in your life?”

“My recovery journey has helped me to identify many defects, or challenges, in my character. It has been really difficult to unearth these – they have been such an integral part of my identity, and my survival, to date.”

“When inundated with information and emotions, I need to step away and resource myself. I do that by working on myself emotionally and spiritually. I used only to practice self-care when I was Inundated. I have learned that it is imperative to practice when times are good as well. Now self-care is my daily practice; I come first. This is the only way I can wake up daily and continue this alienation marathon.”

“After one and a half years in the program, I am finding ways to say no, confront, challenge, concede, walk away, and fight when needed. Loving myself today means finding the best and healthiest outcome for my children and me one day at a time and one situation at a time.”

“All of my days don’t flow with daily ease and perfection. To expect that would be unrealistic. I know that now, and my body eases better into the moments that challenge me.”